女人如何「測試」男人,以及如何應對

(嘗試翻譯 David DeAngelo 的文章。有的地方還是不會翻譯。)

你有沒有碰到過當你打電話約她時,她說:」星期五晚上?行啊,要不你星期五再打電話給我……「?

你有沒有碰到過被她直接問你對她」是不是認真的「?

你有沒有碰到過她拿一些莫名其妙的事情來」擺弄「你?

你有沒有碰到過她在約會前五分鐘打電話說不來了?

你有沒有碰到過她因為一點不順心而噘著一幅大便臉(勸都勸不轉)?

你有沒有碰到過當你問她的電話號碼時她說:」還是把你的電話號碼給我,我來打給你「?

注意到沒,她在」測試「你。以上這些就是女人」測試「男人的通常方式。從某種意義上說,她的測試是為了確認自己在兩人關係中擁有多少主動權,同時也是看,你有多少主動權。

這種測試的」荒謬「之處在於,如果你滿足了她看起來所期望的,那你就失敗了。嘿,女人就是這麼不講道理。

我正在讀一本很棒的書叫《成為一個出眾的男人》。作者在書中說,女人總是直接向男人問這問那……而當男人滿足了她的要求時,她卻會感到失望,向男人發火。

你碰到過嗎?

這樣的」測試「到底是怎麼回事呢?

女人」測試「男人是因為她們想馬上看清這個男人的面目,她們可不指望男人會將自己的弱點老老實實的展露出來。

I mean, let’s face it… we guys like to talk a big game, but when it comes to walking the talk, we often can’t BACK IT UP.

還有,漂亮的女人總是會有很多選擇。她們必須做出選擇。漂亮的女人總是喜歡」強「的男人。並非是身體上的強壯(儘管那會是一種優勢),而是人格和身份上的」強勢「。

女人不喜歡小屁孩。

想想看……如果你是一位動人女子,有100個男人圍著你,你怎麼才能指出哪幾個有資格做你的真命天子,而哪幾個是外強中乾?

沒錯,你必須」測試「他們。

但你絕不會說:」來,準備好了,我要測測你們。「

絕對不會!

你會暗中做測試,弄清這個男人真正的長處和弱點。這些測試都不會讓他知道你正在測試他,同時也不會讓他感覺出你的測試結論。這樣,如果他表現得像個小屁孩,你就可以趕緊從他身邊溜開。

這也能讓你獲得主動權。

如果你經常這麼做,慢慢的就會習慣成自然,最後這些測試就會成為一種下意識的,在不經意間流露出的行為,貫穿於你和男人們的交流當中。

清楚了沒?這就是美女們的生活。她們自然而然的測試我們!而你一旦失敗一次,就很難有下次機會了。

在這個快節奏的社會,人們不會有幾個月或者幾年時間來弄清他/她是否合適自己。我們需要馬上弄清楚。測試便是女人的」快捷方式「。她們用這種方式來判斷你是一個能掌握局面的人還是一個小屁孩。

希望你能理解我所說的。

所以如果下次你站在一位美女面前向她要電話號碼,而她說:「幹嘛不把你的電話給我,我來打給你?」你不妨笑笑,說:

「得了,別來這套。我可不是那種每天只想著打電話的人。把你的號碼寫給我,我保證每天只打20個電話給你。」

然後把筆給她,指著那張白紙,滿懷希望的看著她。

太棒了。

附原文:
———————————————————
How Women "Test" Men – How To Pass

Have you ever called a woman on the phone to
set up a date and she says: "Friday night? Sure.
Call me on Friday and we can talk about it…"?

Or, have you ever had a woman ask you if you’re
"a player"?

Or, have you ever had a woman challenge you
about something ridiculous?

Or, have you ever had a woman call you five
minutes before a date and cancel?

Or, have you ever had a woman pout and get
upset because she didn’t get her way?

Or, have you ever asked a woman for her number
and she says, "Why don’t you give me your number
and I’ll call YOU"?

Well guess what… you were being TESTED.

All of these are examples of common things
women do to "test" men.

On some level, the woman you were dealing with
was testing to see how much control she had in the
relationship… and how STRONG you were.

The paradox of "testing" is that if you COMPLY
with what a woman SEEMS to want, you will usually
FAIL the test.

Hey, I never said that women made sense… lol.

I was reading a great book recently called "The
Way Of The Superior Man", and inside the author
points out that a woman will often ask a man for
something DIRECTLY… but if he DOES what she
asks, she will be disappointed and ANGRY with him.

Ever been there?

So what’s with this testing stuff, anyway?

Well, the answer is fascinating.

And before I tell you about why women TEST you,
I want to mention that there’s a LOT more going on
"behind the scenes" when it comes to female
psychology and behavior. I believe that if you can
learn how to understand this "mating psychology",
then you can learn to attract women MUCH faster…

If you want to get some of my very best ideas
on this topic, just follow this link, and download
my online eBook "Double Your Dating"… it’s here:

http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/13338/eBook/?cid=VH4ZZZ&lid=2&ll=1

Back to the answer…

Women test men because they need to QUICKLY
figure out what they’re dealing with, and they
can’t expect a man to just be straight up and
honest about his strengths and weaknesses.

I mean, let’s face it… we guys like to talk a
big game, but when it comes to walking the talk,
we often can’t BACK IT UP.

Also, beautiful women have a lot of options.
They have their pick of men. And beautiful women
prefer STRONG men. Not physically strong (although
this can be an advantage), but strong in CHARACTER
and PERSONAL IDENTITY.

Women aren’t attracted to WUSSIES.

So let me ask you… if you were an attractive
woman that was being chased around by 100 guys,
how would YOU go about figuring out which one or
ones were the "real deal" and which were merely
FAKING strength and confidence?

Of course… you’d have to TEST them.

But you couldn’t test by saying, "OK, I’m going
to give you a test now, so get ready".

No no NO!

You’d have to use "blind" tests. Tests that
would allow you to see a man’s true strengths and
weaknesses. And in fact, you’d want to use tests
that ideally DIDN’T ALLOW HIM TO KNOW THAT YOU
WERE TESTING… OR WHAT YOU HAD DISCOVERED ABOUT
HIM WITH THOSE TESTS. This way, if he turned out
to be a Wuss Bag, you could slip away quickly and
easily.

This would give you the power…

Of course.

And if you did this OFTEN, you’d eventually
become so accustomed to doing it, that MANY of the
tests would become SUBCONSCIOUS and work their way
into your NATURAL, EVERYDAY way of communicating
with men.

Well guess what?

That’s what is going on with beautiful women.

Many of the tests that they use with men are
actually OUTSIDE OF THEIR AWARENESS. They test us
automatically!

And if you fail one of these tests, there’s a
good chance that you won’t get another chance.

In this fast-paced world, we humans don’t have
the time to spend getting to know people over a
few months or years to figure out whether or not
they’re the kind of person that would make a good
friend or mate.

We need to know NOW.

So we use shortcuts.

Testing is a shortcut for women.

It lets them discover VERY RAPIDLY whether you
have BALLS, or if you’re just another one of the
bazillion Wusses that are trying to get her
attention.

I hope you feel what I’m saying.

So, the next time you’re standing in front of a
beautiful woman who you’ve just asked for her
number and she says, "Why don’t you just give me
yours and I’ll call YOU…" try CHUCKLING out
loud, and saying:

"Oh, cummon. Don’t give me that old line. Write
your number down and I’ll only call you 25 times a
day until you wind up having to change it because
I have nothing better to do with my time than call
someone who doesn’t want to hear from me."

Then hand her a pen, point to the paper, and
look her in the eye expectantly.

Love it.

This entry was posted in 未分類. Bookmark the permalink.

發表迴響

在下方填入你的資料或按右方圖示以社群網站登入:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / 變更 )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / 變更 )

Facebook照片

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / 變更 )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / 變更 )

連結到 %s